I blamed him for years for what happened until I finally had to accept my part in ending the life of our baby. Although I changed my own post-abortive father’s name in the book, I felt an obligation to tell him about it. I had no idea that like me, he’d been traumatized by our decision to end the life of our child. ” And I meant it. For me, it brought the healing that was missing in my heart. ” “I have no one to talk to about it.